My Girlfriend Is and Her Family Are Nudest

The first thing I can recall clearly was sitting in a hospital room in the dark.

I knew something was incorrect — that at that place was something wrong with me — and yet, I couldn't tell exactly what. I realized the left side of my face was numb. Hanging on the wall in front of me was a television, but there was something incorrect with it too. A ghostly re-create was superimposed over the standard gear up; it was rotated at roughly a 15-degree bending and faded abroad into the burnt cream walls. Is the Tv the trouble, or is it me?

My female parent and a nurse wearing scrubs entered from the left, a disorienting identify outside of my field of vision.

"That's our daughter," my mom said, approaching my bed. "How are you doing today?"

Why was she and so nonchalant? Why wasn't she worried? Considering the haphazard inventory I had just taken, I probably should have demanded answers or cursed a bit. Raised some hell. Instead, I replied with an uncertain "… good," slightly alarmed that she, too, possessed a ghostly, tilted imprint. When I was young, my female parent always went on, at length, about the difficulties of raising my prone-to-tantrums, bang-his-caput-on-the-concrete-when-angry older brother. Then, turning to me, she'd say, "Simply you, yous're so easy. And calm. And you never mutter." I estimate that hadn't changed. I wanted to enquire her what was happening — and where I was. Instead, I swept my arm in front end of me and, trying to detect out what would happen next, said, "And at present?"

Before she answered, another character entered from the hallway, but this one I couldn't identify. Adequately young — my age, by the await of him — his youth was accentuated by a clean-shaven chin under full, feminine lips and a baseball cap perched precariously on his head, above his boyish face. He had the expect of a perpetually surprised toddler, lips slightly parted in wonder and curiosity.

"Now you accept physical therapy," he commented.

The concrete therapist, a blonde woman with chin-length hair, stepped in from phase right, clipboard in hand and a laminated bluecoat dangling from a lanyard effectually her neck. When she entered, the nurse left, not wanting to crowd the room.

The physical therapist pushed a rolling walker to the edge of my bed and beckoned me to ascent. My initial movements were the stop-move stutter of a crude blitheness. I reached for 1 of the walker'due south handles. And missed. The double paradigm layered on top of what I idea was the actual walker jutted out awkwardly in a management that led me to believe it couldn't be the real one — was I wrong? I tried again. Yep, I was wrong.

"Are you OK? Ready to stand?" the physical therapist asked.

Planting my feet shoulder-width apart, clinging to my walker, I clambered to a standing position — I'k generous when I use that phrase. Betwixt my shaking limbs, aptitude knees and outstretched arms, I must've looked more than like a member of a seniors' Pilates class than the 25-year-quondam woman I presumed myself to all the same exist. Everything, including myself, felt familiar yet foreign, an already-read volume revisited accidentally. An eerie sense of déjà vu — my own personal uncanny valley, then familiar but not the same.

"OK, Brooke." The physical therapist then addressed my mother and her companion. "Nosotros'll be back in 45 minutes."

The therapist led me down a long hallway lined with other rooms and other patients. Every few feet, the therapist paused and waited for me to inch toward her, patiently watching with a fixed smile for the finish-motion hermit crab to scuttle closer.

"At present simply a little farther to the elevator," the therapist said, pulling me dorsum to the task at hand. I had just discovered I was having issues multitasking: Whenever I started thinking too much, I couldn't walk.

My god, I thought, I am exhausted and we're non even where we're going still.

When we finally reached the elevator, I stepped inside, at the therapist's bidding.

"I experience like I know you," my vocalisation hissed out of my oral fissure similar a barely audible stream of gas. A death rattle that made syllables and managed to form words.

At first, I wasn't sure she had heard any had escaped my pharynx. Her back, nonetheless facing me, seemed crystallized in position. Finally, she turned and looked at me for a long moment. When the lift doors dinged close, she took a deep breath and sighed.

"I'one thousand Linda."

"My grandpa's girlfriend has your name."

Linda's oral fissure tightened, but her eyes softened.

"I know. I've introduced myself to you nearly every day for the by two weeks."

Luckily, my memories started to stick later on that disconcerting moment with the Tv set. Unluckily, weeks had already elapsed since I had been admitted to the hospital, some of which fourth dimension I'd been comatose. I started receiving diverse stories about what had happened. Some true, some, I would somewhen come up to realize, fiction.

One twenty-four hours, shortly later I'd started to remember Linda the therapist, the boy with the childlike face and artless hat — I'll call him Stanley hither — slipped into the hospital bed with me. Alarmed, but oddly complacent, I said naught, even equally he leaned close to me and whispered into my ear, "I've been telling everyone that I'grand your boyfriend."

"Yeah, OK."

Hadn't this happened before? Him divulging he was my boyfriend … it felt familiar. How many times had this happened?

"OK," he parroted and turned to Naked and Afraid on the TV.

"My face is numb."

"Yes, you've been maxim that."

"That screen is double."

"Yeah, you lot've been maxim that also."

"What happened?"

Stanley cocked his head to the side like a confused dog and considered my question — or at least, I figured he was considering it. Mayhap he was worried virtually me. Maybe my well-being concerned him.

"What practise you remember?" he asked me.

"You moved your stuff into my room." I knew this had happened, even though I hadn't realized it a moment before. But I remembered that detail and I knew I knew him. In what capacity? His merits to be my beau didn't experience right — it couldn't accept been romantic. Wasn't I merely doing him a favor?

His already circular, wide eyes widened further. He pursed his lips and diverted his gaze.

"You allowed me to move into your apartment temporarily." Stanley paused. "That'southward the last thing yous call back? And you don't retrieve what you had been doing that day?"

"What day?"

Stanley let out a huff of air in exasperation. He shook his head in exaggerated impatience, rolling his eyes.

"The twenty-four hours y'all and Cassie climbed a redwood almost the trailer park and you fell 25 feet out of it."

According to my female parent, in the early on days of my hospitalization, every time Stanley entered my hospital room and appear himself to the doctors and nurses as my young man, I threw out an arm in a warped false of Vanna White and exclaimed, "I guess I have a fellow now." Cue Pat Sajak chortling good-naturedly.

It came back to me early on, distinctly, that he had never wanted to be my boyfriend before this.

Only whenever I broached the subject, Stanley told me he hadn't known what he wanted before, only uncertain of whether I would live or die, he became aware of how he felt. My skepticism remained even as my memory wavered.

Even so, he showed up each twenty-four hour period, and I began to believe him when he said his feelings had changed. Trapped in my bed and visited by therapists I only partially knew and family members I only vaguely recognized, information technology was nice to have someone else come encounter me and do word puzzles in bed with me, even if I didn't always call back who he was right abroad.

Other friends of mine who came to see me in the infirmary were wary of Stanley, but his insistence on his right to be there and his part in my life stifled any objections that even my best friend, Sam, thought to make. My female parent and I had ever communicated infrequently about my romantic endeavors. Coping every bit all-time she could, she remained intoxicated near of the time I was in the hospital and didn't question Stanley's version of events. Later, she said I seemed like I wanted him there.

Westwardhen I was released from the infirmary, I couldn't walk without an arm crutch, and my retentivity was still far from intact. Santa Clara Medical Centre insisted I exit in a wheelchair, and I was wheeled out to Stanley'south car. He said we'd decided together that he'd move to San Diego with me. With no memory of the original conversation, I believed him, but I felt overwhelmed.

Following the seven-hour drive to North Canton San Diego, I told my mom I didn't want to live with him. And although Stanley repeatedly hinted he should stay at my parents' home, my mom put her foot down and said Stanley couldn't live with united states.

And so he got a recruiting task and a room nearby. On weekdays after getting off work, he'd walk through the side gate without announcing he was coming. On one particular day in tardily fall, two months subsequently my infirmary stay, he came into the backyard while I skimmed letters on Facebook that I'd received equally an inpatient.

I had been talking to our mutual friend, Cassie (I've changed her name hither, likewise as Stanley'southward), from college. We'd been exchanging letters on Facebook, and while looking at our conversation, I saw an older message she'd sent me, while I was in the hospital, which I had no memory of.

"Cassie messaged me while I was in Santa Clara," I mentioned to Stanley, my eye still fixed on the screen. "I said you lot joked around, maxim you hoped my retention stayed impaired, and she replied, 'Is there something he doesn't desire yous to remember?'"

I laughed. Stanley didn't.

"Why do you lot think that'due south funny?" he demanded, pulling the laptop toward him. He didn't sit downwards. "Why would you tell her that?" He shoved the laptop abroad and placed his hands on either side of his head. "Why would you say that to her?"

"Hey, relax," I grunted while using both the table and chair to pull myself to a standing position. Once facing him, I added, "I don't see what the trouble is."

"You don't — you don't — " Livid, Stanley couldn't seem to limited himself through his rage.

Instead of walking away or going inside, I just stood and watched him stutter every bit his face flushed until he finally formulated words. And boy, what words they were.

"What is wrong with you?" he started. "Here I am, doing everything I can to assist you — sticking effectually when we idea you were going to die, staying when you lot were r*tarded, not leaving when we weren't sure if y'all'd get better. And I'm here now even though — look at you." He paused to moving ridge a manus from my short hair to my bare feet.

Incapable of speaking, I retreated through the sliding glass door into the kitchen. All of the words I wanted to say slithered through my mind, broken, disconnected. But nada came from me.

"And you might be similar this forever! And instead of telling Cassie how supportive I've been, you say that to her? Why couldn't you take told her how good I've been to you — trying to make you look like less of a mess, getting your pilus cutting, taking y'all to become your face waxed because it was disgusting."

As he spoke, he encroached on my space, stepping forward until his face was less than a few inches from mine. His hands still flapped in the air to either side; I retrieve he may have wanted to catch me past the shoulders but refrained. Information technology wasn't until he vibrated each hand on the left and right side of my face that I realized I was shaking besides.

Stanley pulled his hands back, made a noise that sounded like a mixture of an exasperated moan and a frustrated yelp. Finally, he stomped out of my parents' kitchen like a schoolboy suffering a tantrum. All I heard next was the gate slamming backside him.

Later, he pretended we'd never had that interaction — I just brought it up once in the following days, and he insisted he didn't know what I was referring to.

Kore than two years before I woke up disoriented in the infirmary, it was the showtime of my "junior" school year at the University of California, Santa Cruz (UCSC). All of the out-of-town transfer students over the age of 22 were corralled on the first floor of the transfer dorm. That dorm became a haven for all of usa who had spent our post-high school years not attending college. But nosotros had finally pulled together those community college units to proceeds admittance to a four-year school. And by God, nosotros were jubilant.

Cue the night afterward we all moved in: Everyone left their dorm doors propped open and flitted from room to room, taking a shot here, nabbing a plastic cup of our hallmate Cassie's bootleg wine there. Everyone except me. Stationed at the school-supplied prefab wooden desk underneath my bunk bed sans bottom bunk, I was drinking whiskey and playing music from a USB-connected speaker.

"Anyone dislike Tom Waits?" I shouted in the general direction of the bodies amassed in my room. "All right, well, that's what we're gonna mind to now."

Among the gyrating bodies, a short guy in a blueish baseball cap, brim pushed up jauntily, slid forward with an elbow pointing at me. He looked too young to be drinking.

"I like Tom Waits," he offered. "I'grand Stanley."

"Let me guess," I snapped, "you similar Rain Dogs. That's fine 'n all, merely we're going to listen to some real pitiful shit right at present."

Later, Stanley would divulge his first impression of me: feet upward on my desk, pugging whiskey straight from the bottle and ranting to him nigh Tom Waits. He idea I was a bitch. And I would tell him that I thought he was a disrespectful asshole. That didn't terminate him, subsequently our initial meeting, from tapping on my dorm door every solar day, asking if I wanted to go walk in the woods or mount biking. And information technology didn't stop me from taking a swig of my ever-present whiskey and replying, "Sure."

We weren't together, merely nosotros weren't not together. Earlier we slept together, Stanley spent all of his time with me and stopped seeing all of the other women he had been involved with. By the end of that start semester, we had slept together multiple times, met each other's family unit at Thanksgiving, and still not talked nearly what, exactly, we were doing. At the fourth dimension, I didn't call back a conversation was necessary; I figured we had a gentleman's agreement and were on the same page: exclusive but unserious.

Although we lived on the same hallway, Cassie and I weren't particularly close outside of the companionship provided by a common pastime: drinking. At the finish of that twelvemonth in the transfer dorm together, we all dispersed. Cassie moved into UC Santa Cruz's on-campus trailer park — the one I'd autumn out of a tree side by side to, a yr later — and I found a room in an former Victorian on Mission, non far from Laurel Street and downtown.

Part of me figured Stanley wouldn't skulk effectually my door anymore, since we no longer lived a few feet abroad from each other. But sure enough, he ended upward in a sublet off of Laurel Street and would rap on my window from the front porch, softening his big chocolate-brown eyes when I pulled back the blinds to encounter who it could exist.

1 day, Stanley, at present sitting past that window at the figurer chair and desk my sublet provided, broached a conversation we had never touched upon earlier, i I always avoided with everyone: acquaintances, bar patrons, friends — any Stanley was.

"How did you lose your virginity? I remember when I lost mine … "

For the life of me, if you asked me how Stanley lost his virginity, I wouldn't be able to tell you lot anything well-nigh it. I stopped listening subsequently his initial question.

"Are y'all OK?"

Stanley's genial curiosity caught me off baby-sit.

"Yeah, I was but … thinking."

"You don't await OK." He came over and sat next to me on the sublet'southward twin bed. A forest frame painted white housed a run-of-the-mill mattress, neither soft nor hard. Stanley peered into my optics incredulously, daring me to confirm what I could see him working out in his mind. So I did.

"Information technology, uh, wasn't my choice."

"Do you call up his name?"

And I said it for the beginning time in most 10 years. I don't know how I wanted Stanley to react. I don't know what I wanted him to exercise — maybe nod? Peradventure enquire if I wanted a drink? Oh, God, I wanted a potable. The previous nighttime, I had polished off my bedside whiskey and hadn't had the gamble to walk to the liquor store before Stanley popped over. Just I know I didn't want him to practice what he did.

Immediately, he divisional to the computer and opened Facebook.

"And this was in San Diego? OK, permit me see."

Then he began clicking on profiles and muttering to himself, "No, too young. Couldn't exist this one. Hmm, new to the area — no. You don't know his last name?" Stanley glanced over at me and and then stopped touching the reckoner.

At the time, I didn't have the vocabulary, but now I tin can describe how I felt — confused, disoriented, overwhelmed. I heard the words, I understood them, simply none of them stuck with me. Information technology'southward well-nigh like tunnel vision, but the contrary seems to happen — everything expands and your field of vision contains too much and none of it makes sense. Your eyes water because everything feels overexposed and lacks item.

I didn't detect him rejoin me on the bed or when he took my limp hand from my lap and held it. But I did hear him when he said, "I think people place too much weight on a person's sexual history."

So he kissed me gently and we had sexual activity, on a mattress that could accept been hard or soft or just fine. Only it hadn't been love — he felt sorry for me. He insisted, afterward, that he cared about me, simply he didn't want to be together, couldn't be in a relationship. And I understood because, I felt, who would want to exist with me?

No one knew virtually this interaction, merely I'm sure the leeway I gave Stanley despite the boundaries he crossed — because of his reaction to a truth I hated so much — looked like love.

In the months after I left the hospital, my memory slowly simply surely came back to me. I remembered all of this, nearly how I met Stanley and what our relationship was like before the blow. But I still had some questions. Some missing pieces — like how I could take permit any of this happen.

"Icouldn't tell you earlier," said Cassie. "Because I thought y'all were in honey with him. How could I tell you lot what Stanley had done?"

This conversation with Cassie took place before I savage out of the tree, and it came back to me as I gradually regained my retentivity. Nearly 7 months subsequently leaving the dorms, nosotros were sitting at an outdoor table on the patio of UCSC'due south Kresge Café, where we often met to talk about the likes of Amiri Baraka or Jean Toomer for our poetry grade. It was well into our second yr at UCSC, our "senior year," that Cassie and I began hanging out consistently and (relatively) sober; Cassie had an constituent slot open, and I suggested she take a verse class with me.

Cassie rubbed her left arm with her right mitt simply kept her eyes on mine.

Information technology happened on Memorial Day Weekend when we all withal lived in the transfer dorms, she said. Only a little over half of a yr before our meeting at the Kresge Café. Memorial Day had been a transfer dorm hallmate'southward altogether and everyone had gone to Cowell'due south Beach to gloat — anybody except me. They left before I returned from — where had I been? I don't know. Drunkard somewhere. Similar ever.

Cassie described a embankment bonfire. Just then she and Stanley had run into the wood to observe firewood. She described Stanley slinging his arm around her cervix, the same way he did to me. Cassie hadn't constitute this strange, and I didn't remember she would — when he did this to me, I felt more than like a "bro" than a romantic partner. It was when she savage down that things changed.

She described them losing balance and toppling over a log. And and so she told me Stanley started ripping downward her pants and putting his mouth on her … I tin can't go there again.

"I told him to finish and he did." Her voice trailed off as if, maybe, she should excuse him for the initial violation since he was so practiced at post-obit instructions afterwards.

"I am … and so fucking angry — "

"This is why I didn't want to tell yous," Cassie whispered. "I didn't want y'all to hate me."

"No, no, no, no, no." The discussion tumbled out of my oral fissure and wouldn't end. "No, no, no." Maybe if I said information technology enough, she'd know. "Not with you — you did nothing wrong — with him. With him. He's a fucking monster."

And I hated myself. Considering I had been awake, drunk but awake, when they returned. Everyone else clambered upstairs to continue the party, but Stanley pulled me into his room and into his bed. Afterward what he had done.

Due westhen Cassie told me all of this, Stanley had been studying abroad for months. Neither of us had heard from him in that time. I heard from other common friends he had a girlfriend of sorts.

A calendar month after Cassie'south revelation, Stanley commented on the UCSC trailer park's public page, a community Cassie was a office of, and received a harrowing response from a friend of Cassie's: Nosotros'd rather not have whatsoever sexual assaulters in our community, thanks.

Which, of course, caused Stanley to telephone call me — the outset time in nine months we'd had any contact.

"What is she proverb almost me?" he shrieked.

"Non really sure who or what you're talking almost."

"Don't play fucking dumb: Cassie. It was an accident. I stopped. What is she telling people?"

I sighed and tried to keep an even tone. "Any happened, it evidently caused her more than damage than y'all idea."

"You were raped," Stanley responded. Information technology sounded more like an accusation than a annotate; it felt more similar an allegation.

I didn't answer, and he connected. "You lot know what existent assault is similar. Yous need to tell her. Call her right now and make sure you tell her. Y'all have to tell her what it'due south actually like — that, what was his proper noun? That the construction worker came into your room and held y'all downwardly and told you non to scream and forced his fucking — "

"Hey, hey, hey at present." I didn't demand the play-by-play. "I go it, I become it. Jesus."

And because information technology's easier to shove your hurt onto someone else than addressing the haemorrhage parts within yourself, I called Cassie and did the worst thing I've ever washed in my life: I told her it could have been worse.

"Cassie," my vocalisation croaky as I told her everything and then said, "What Stanley did was inappropriate, only he stopped."

I north the months following my coma, these memories returned to me in sporadic waves. I remembered, so I convinced myself I must be misremembering, I must be wrong. Stanley would storm out whenever I brought up the past, only to return the following solar day like zip had happened, which made things fifty-fifty more than disruptive.

Only I finally called Cassie toward the end of January 2016, five months after I had moved dorsum to San Diego. I wish I could say I had mustered the courage a month before, as soon as I realized there was something Stanley didn't want me to remember, but how could I possibly tell her I remembered, that information technology had come up back to me, and Stanley was still here?

"Cassie?" I asked quietly when a voice answered the phone. I stood in the backyard of my parents' house, the only place I could be alone.

"Brooke! It's and so proficient to talk to yous. How have you lot been? What happened?"

I told her everything: Santa Clara, Stanley, not knowing exactly what had happened.

"I called Stanley as shortly as the ambulance took you lot away," Cassie said slowly, "I figured he would have contacted your family. The hospital had to find your parents' data? Why didn't Stanley call your parents?"

A foreboding awareness crept into my gut and my skin became cold and clammy. It was overcast, typical January weather in San Diego, but far from cold.

"That dark," she said, "we had made it to the meridian, at to the lowest degree 85 feet up, and you were really confident — we were joking effectually — and then suddenly you looked at me and told me, 'I have to go downwards. Now.' Then you sped down, and I think climbing to a lower branch before yous barbarous is what saved your life."

"And," I started and and then stopped to moisten my mouth — it had gone dry out — and eased myself down to sit down on the concrete patio. "That'southward all that happened?"

"Well," Cassie added, "I did think it was weird when I heard Stanley was even so with you in San Diego. Earlier nosotros climbed the tree that night, you were telling me how much you hated him. You had him purchase a airplane ticket back dwelling in front of you to be sure he was actually leaving. He had just moved all of his shit into your room after his lease ended, and you lot wanted him gone."

"Cassie," I replied weakly.

"Well, information technology's expert the two of you lot have worked things out. It was just, y'know, weird."

It was truthful; my misgivings hadn't been unwarranted.

Stanley and I had been involved, but it was long over, and — as usual — Stanley used me right when I idea I was rid of him. When he came back from studying abroad, he stayed with me for about a calendar week and insisted I mediate a conversation between him and Cassie. (I did, and she said she wasn't going to press charges.) He found his own place, just and then when the spring quarter ended and his sublease was upward, he moved all his shit into my room; I protested only he insisted. I kept telling him that he needed to but go home, but he continued to insist, over and over again, that he needed to stay to make sure "Cassie wasn't going to do anything."

I withal have no memory of the night I vicious out of the tree, simply Cassie told me I had made him buy a plane ticket in front of me to exist sure that he would get out.

Later terminal our phone telephone call, I remained seated on the basis exterior. I felt stupid; I was stupid. Stanley had been disarming me he was doing me a favor, that I needed him. When actually, he needed me. Withal paranoid about what had happened with Cassie and his reputation, he had been using me to convince anybody he was a good person.

Aweek after my call with Cassie, I was blistering cookies. Remembering the recipe, the measurements, the order I needed to mix the ingredients, exercising my fine-motor skills to mix them — information technology was all good exercise. It was all rehabilitating, my occupational therapist told me.

Next to the kitchen sink, my mom swirled a glass of champagne and said, near every bit if she were channeling it from some other plane, "Three days into your coma, Stanley told me we should pull the plug on you."

Above the bowl of sugar and butter, my hands held a jar of peanut butter and an overlarge spoon, motionless. I stopped to look at her, closing one heart to gainsay the double vision the damage to my occipital lobe had caused.

My mom averted her eyes as she added, "And he would sit forever and try to approximate the code to your telephone — he was desperate to get into it." Then she shrugged. "But you lot seemed similar you wanted him around …"

"When I was in a blackout?" I asked.

My mom ignored this and said, "Stanley told me he knew you and knew what you'd want."

Even knowing this, knowing my life had been dispensable to him, I was also weak of a person to make him get out. Stanley kept coming by my parents' house every day, telling me I should stop focusing on rehabilitating my mind and should instead brand my physical advent more appealing. Often, he'd driblet me off at walk-in waxing salons, instructing them to make my face polish, "less disgusting."

"I merely want to be able to think once again," I'd whisper after.

"This is probably the best you're going to get," he'd reply. "You lot need to take better care of yourself. You have a lot of contest."

This obsession with outward aesthetics culminated in him taking me to Calaveras Mountain, a small mountain in east Carlsbad, and bidding me to run to the top.

"My concrete therapist said I shouldn't do any strenuous exercise without her … my body still can't regulate temperature."

Stanley shot me a look of disdain and hissed, "My stepdad is a physiatrist — I know what I'k talking nearly. I guess you don't really want to go better."

Halfway up Calaveras, my double vision split even further — something I didn't remember was possible — and I felt bile ascent in my esophagus. Taking a genu, I put both easily onto the dirt-covered path and threw up.

"My dad was never piece of cake on me," Stanley solemnly whispered, a bizarre caption for his deportment.

We walked the rest of the way downward.

"I think I need to get," Stanley finally said one day.

"Do whatever y'all demand to exercise," I responded.

We were sitting at a Thai restaurant in a strip mall. Across the way, I had briefly worked as a hostess in a restaurant when I was newly 18; they tore information technology down and built a Reddish Lobster in its place.

"Yous're not upset?" He searched my face. "Would you want to stay together? You'd miss me."

I wondered who he was trying to convince.

"Yep, we can stay together … even though y'all tried to kill me."

Stanley reeled back as if he had just been slapped. His feminine lips parted and his bottom jaw hung open, aghast.

Stanley, enraged, knocked over his tea. It had been almost empty. The outrage felt performative; the spill theatrical. I was beginning to get a headache; I just wished someone would exist honest with me — my mom, Stanley, anyone who had been there. Everyone wanted to protect themselves at my expense. I felt like a kid every time the thought "But what about me?" sprang into my caput.

"I merely meant if it got to that point — if you were going to exist brain dead." His hands flailed and his lips flapped as they always did when he tried to make a signal. I'd finally settled on Beaker — he looked like Beaker from the Muppets. "If y'all were brain dead, your mom would merely keep you forever in a dorsum room drooling all over yourself! Wait at you now — y'all don't even have your own bed and they've been taking your inability money for months."

That was sort of true; once I had been established as disabled by Social Security, they started dispensing $775 a month to me, an amount based on my previous W-2s and work history. But I chose to give information technology to my parents — the insurance had covered the majority of the medical costs, but my mother had racked upwardly hotel bills staying in San Jose. I handed the provided debit card for my disability benefits to my father and said, "For everything I've washed."

As I explained this, Stanley's mouth quivered in a dumbstruck "O." But his horror and confusion only infuriated me; I had told him all of this before. He knew this — or should accept. Did he ever listen to me?

"And did you lot say that?" I shot dorsum, restraining myself, but barely.

"Say what?"

"'If it got to that point?'"

"I didn't demand to. That'south evidently what I meant."

Stanley left the same week.

He telephoned me in February 2017, more than a year later.

By this time, I had finished my bachelor'south caste by taking my remaining classes at UC San Diego, and I'd started working seasonal shifts as a production assistant at an bookish publishing company. I took the railroad train to work by myself. An eye surgery had corrected my double vision, and I no longer needed to close one heart or wear a patch to run across. On paper, I appeared to be a legitimate, operation adult, and no one asked nigh my abnormal gait or disability to write by hand.

Uncertain if I should answer Stanley's phone call, I watched his name manifest on my cell telephone screen and blink away when I didn't affect it. A month later — I don't know if curiosity gripped me or if I hoped for an explanation, or at least an apology — I called him back.

"I was surprised to encounter you calling," Stanley said by style of greeting. "I took mushrooms and went to a actually dark place and chosen y'all considering I knew you lot'd make me experience ameliorate. Practise you call up I'm OK?"

"What exercise yous hateful?"

"Cassie."

"For someone who didn't do anything incorrect, y'all certainly are acting like you did something wrong."

"Fuck, Brooke, I didn't do anything!"

"Y'all ripped her pants downward — "

"I DIDN'T RIP HER PANTS Downward. I PULLED THEM Downward."

"Did y'all unbutton them?"

"What?"

"Did you unbutton her pants?"

"I don't know. What the fuck does that thing?"

"It does thing. It all matters. You've tortured me for over two years — do you realize that? Cassie told you two months before my accident that what you did was fucked up, just she wasn't going to do annihilation punitive. And and so — then — you lied to my family and friends, saying yous were my beau to paint some sort of sympathetic narrative for some made-upwardly situation y'all thought you were in — something that wasn't real. Only what happened to me was existent. Everything — my whole life — my whole life. And my whole life meant zero to you … you — "

"Wow," Stanley interrupted in amazement. "Your speaking — your speech communication is really good. You could barely cord together a judgement earlier. You — "

"Y'all!" I roared back. "You lot stressed me out all of the time. You interrupted me. You yelled at me until I shook. I — " My voice cracked. I felt — all at in one case — I felt pain. Regret. Shame. Remorse. "In the time you've been out of my life, I've fabricated such improvements," I continued in a near whisper, "… amazing improvements … if you had never been effectually … if yous hadn't forced your way into my recovery … " I trailed off.

"You lot can't put that on me — I was going through something — "

"No." Information technology was resolute enough to make Stanley fall silent. "Yous went through aught. You did something very wrong to Cassie. And me — you lot probably stunted the progress I could have made. I'll never know. Good day, Stanley."

Cassie doesn't hate me, but she should. At least that'due south how I feel nigh it.

We were able to see each other in person in 2017, so we talked on the phone in the summer of 2019. She's doing well, despite everything, and understands the emotional manipulation Stanley employed to keep me nether his thumb. She'due south given me grace I'thousand not notwithstanding ready to give myself.

I don't know where Stanley is or what he's chosen to do with his life. I promise he's washed some self-reflection, but I dubiousness he has. The hold rape culture has on us all makes it virtually impossible for 18-carat cocky-reflection to occur in these types of men.

My physical deficits are nonetheless an everyday part of my life, but I've come to accept my disability. Ironically, the trauma of my blow, recovery, and new identity equally a disabled person pales in comparison to the effects of Stanley's destructive presence. I'm suspicious of all romantic partners and don't trust the motives anyone purports to take. I'm distrustful and resentful. I become to therapy to discern which parts of my skepticism are warranted and which are pure paranoia. Even when I know, am painstakingly shown the truth, it doesn't feel real or genuine.

Despite this, I've adult a tenuous romantic human relationship — maybe the give-and-take "state of affairs" is more accurate — with an old friend who lives on the other side of the state. I think this is all I'yard capable of, and correct now, it's all I want. Maybe that'll modify, but for now, I'm grateful for my cerebral capabilities, the bulldoze to stay sober, and the lack of responsibility for someone else's emotional stability — maintaining my ain is quite enough.

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